#GIRLS TALK: D
FEMININE IN US
Growing up as a female has been a loving
and eye opening experience for me of which i never failed to reminisce on
In my primary school days, it was always
about been the best in class, represent my school in different competitions,
the innocence act of having a boy as just a friend or a competitor to the 1st,
2nd, 3rd place prize i look forward to every end of the school term was
remarkable and to the ever fun loving end of the year party to show off my
dress and party till mother says it’s time to leave.
Gaining admission to the secondary school
was all i ever longed for to prove my brilliancy and intelligence but as time
went by one gets to learn secondary school is another ball game entirely. My
days of j.s.s 1-3 were innocent days of having to listen attentively in class,
aiming to be the best in all the subjects, the pride of having to be the class
captain, be the first at the assembly ground etc but days of S.S.S1-3 opened my
eyes to many vices around me.
Biology class from my S.S.S 1 has never
really been my favorite, i never knew may be i was the problem or the teacher
we had so i never really got to
understood the puberty stage nor the feminine body.
Having to wake up one day and wanted to
urinate and saw blood on my pant made me cried that i was going to die until a
senior explained all i needed to know even mother didn’t explain that to me,
all i got from her reply to my note was "do not play with boys" and i
was like where the hell will a boy emanate from since i was in a girls only
boarding school, never really knew what she meant with the statement until i
got to higher institution.
The Stomach ache one experiences during
the menstrual cycle lead seniors to prescribe drugs like postinor, mestrogen
etc. which i never knew were contraceptive pills and up to now i still wonder
if those seniors really knew what the drugs were actually meant for those days
I witnessed cases of teachers taking
advantages of mates & seniors through sex all in the name of promoting them
to the next class by giving them high marks in their subjects and having to
fail those who won’t compromise their dignity.
Cases of unwanted pregnancy among peers
and seniors was another saga to behold which brought about the circulation of a
pregnancy tale i believed to be true due to ignorance " a mate caught to
be pregnant told us that during the holiday she used a public toilet after a
man, that she is sure the urine of the man that she sat on made her pregnant”.
Really i should be beaten for believing such story with my heart, got to
realize the truth in higher institution when my period was delayed and i told a
friend i used the toilet after the guy next room "please, let me spare you
the saga of what happened afterwards".
Having to look back now i see the need
for us ‘MOTHERS/SISTERS/AUNTIES to re-educate our daughters and younger girls
related to us or not.
A research I carried out shows that most of
these girls still make the same mistakes ,no topic is too coded to discuss nowadays,
these are the days of modern technology that has gone berserk however let us
make positive use of these tools as an eye opening medium.
Enlighten them on various topics ranging
from puberty, sex, abstinence etc. by surfing the internet, this action also
brings about a bond that is unexplainable and keeping it up will make you a
confidant.
Let’s make it a way of giving back to the
society because these young girls are the mothers
of tomorrow.
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