CREATING MEMORABLE MOMENTS

Ladies tend to hold on to memorable moments shared with their guys due to their ways of reasoning and the emotional entangle they are prone to.

In a relationship, 95% of the emotional ordeals are vivid and well kept in a lady’s mind while a man will rather emerge himself in the financial stability of the relationship.

Most men term it absurd and crazy when a lady out of the bloom says she is tired of the relationship because the man doesn’t have her time or enough time for her.

Note: Memorable moments fill the gaps of a distant or strain relationship; it makes the lady want to give her relationship another chance. This fact however is oblivious to most men, for men are created to be more of a stallion and counts emotions as a weakling factor.

Women tend to think deeply and get entangled with the memories of the good, the bad or the ugly activities in their relationship. These memories either spice up the flame of their affection for the guy or burn it.

Note: it will take a mere conversation for a man to forgive a backstabber but due to the emotional sentiment of ladies, it might take years. The memories of the backstabbing event is recalled on sighting the culprit and so God help the culprit, the plot of revenge or pay back begins which is never immediate though normally years absurdly decades.

These moments in turn affects the final decision of a single lady to determine  

• ·         If she is really in love with her guy?
• ·         If he can be forgiven of past and wrong deeds or attitude?
• ·         If saying yes to his marriage proposal is the right step?

Note: Most men make a lady happy but never make them fall in love. It is always a puzzle when a lady leaves a man she has been dating for years to get married to the one she just met few months ago.it all boils down to memorable moments.A memorable moment makes love blossom and flourish.

A married woman will rather ask herself after few months,

• ·         Am I really happy being here?
• ·         Why am I still with him despite his lack and mistakes?
• ·         Divorce?

Ladies do not want their man to be by their sides all day, all they want  are just memorable moments that can add up to lots to fill their mind and soul with. That is why a lady can wait years for her lover to return form lost journey.

The memories subdued in her inner mind relates with her in time of emptiness and loneliness especially when her man is at work or on a journey. These memories creates another world in which she is entrapped till his return and also brings a relief that he will be back to recreate more with her.

Note: This is the reason a lady will see her man’s face on every guy thereby ruining the chances of saying yes to another guy’s proposal.

If a lady is seen in a dreamy state, she is getting herself entangled in the memorable moments. A fellow lady who perceives this emotion will exclaim “you are in love, who is the lucky guy?” Or “Am jealous, your man is really giving you a swell time”. While a man would rather ask “are you alright? You were lost for a moment, is everything ok generally?” so much for men I will say…

To know your lady is not about making a Shakespeare of her to study or hire a third party to seek her nooks and crony, it’s about creating memorable moments with her by making her long for you in time of your absence.

Your moments with her bring out her true nature and also bring her out of her shell. A person’s true nature can never be hidden, it is like a smoke.

For dating couples, each day you are opportune to be together

• ·         Grant her stolen kisses (in bed while she sleeps, in waking her up, out of the bloom while she does the chores, while watching TV, while eating or relaxing)
• ·         Learn to cuddle her more in bed while awake in the morning before activities.it is researched that at the point of waking up, one should linger in bed for at least 10mins.it is a kind of booting stage for human.
• ·         Making love is an adventure; make it a kind of rhythm to look forward to. (Different styles, words etc., make it passionate).
• ·         Nature is good. Take her to the beach, Gardens and reminisce on childhood stories.do have fun.
• ·         Surprise her by helping her with chores around the house, well not to the extent your mum will complain though.
• ·         Learn to gist her about your day and also listen to hers as well.
• ·         Engage in outdoor and indoor games.
• ·         Candlelight doesn’t have to be at Eko Suites, surprise her with such at your cozy place with her kind of music.
• ·         Watch movies together, not action oriented but something down to earth kind of romantic.
• ·         Always compliment her in every way to brighten her mood.
• ·         Surprise her with gifts
• ·         Learn to massage her and workout together.
• ·         Call her often and never start your conversation with ‘where are you?’
• ·         Learn to talk in bed when about to sleep.

For married couples, after months, your woman will ask “what happened to us? We were used to so much fun but it different now.”

Yeah! Yeah!! Different because daddy has to work to keep the family financially stable and mummy has to care for the home, the pregnancy and the kids which makes everybody busy! Busy!! Busy!!!

Everyone never fails to buttress ‘I am busy’ in their activities and it makes me wonder how on earth we have the time to visit the loo out of our busy time.

These memorable moments could be liken to the few mins you step out to the loo, step to the eatery to eat, receive a phone call, attend to a client “that brings in money; someone will definitely say but this non 24/7 memorable moments bring about LOVE, TOGETHERNESS AND GREAT FRIENDSHIP.

Married couples can also apply the suggested way of creating memorable moments outlisted for dating couples.

Note: Her being pregnant doesn’t stop her from having these moments. Actually these are the days you should create more with her, gives her stories to tell the baby.

Her being a mother of 1-3 kids whether young or grownups should not put a stop to having these moments in her life. The kids add more memorable moments so why should her hubby lack at such.

Yes, you take her and the kids out which is remarkable however create those memorable moments for just the two of you. Get a third party to babysit the kid/kids and make her realise she is not too fat, thin, old, out of fashion to keep experiencing memorable moments in her life.

A memorable moment is the beginning of a great friendship in love, courtship and marriage.

Like I always say ‘Your lady is you in the making; treat her right as she would you’.

Do have a wonderful week.

NURTURE IT, IT WILL COME

Each time u awake with a distant look upon the reality of a new day which makes you wonders ‘what does the day holds?’

The tears well up as you sit up and brush your hands through your hair and asked yourself ‘where do I start from today again?’

You count failed jobs that have brought you to this state and lament ‘where did I go wrong?’

You are seated to analyze your skills over and over again and question the unknown ‘to what avail?’

You check your wallet and cannot boast of 100naira which makes you deep in thought ‘who do I borrow from today again?

You begin to analyze friends, their success and fail not to remember the dullard you bullied most in your school days who now is a C.E.O of his own company and you scream ‘who have I offended?’

You put the last grain of garri in front of you and finally the tears could not be controlled any more as you question God ‘will I ever make it in life?’

Families sneer at your back and count you rather unserious, lazy and wasting away with no major achievement ‘despite gbogbo Cambridge, they will say’.

A fact we fail to understand is that humans are seeds. The difference between a fruit seed and a human seed is the ability of human to interrelate.

As a seed, the following process must be undertaken,

PLANTING STAGE

A farmer who takes a seed to plant would have known the necessary precautions to take for it to germinate. He decides from the best type of soil to the nurturing factors like water and sunlight.

You were planted in the womb of your mum to feel the warmth of love and just like the farmer; your mother had to go through the necessary steps of nutrition to make you survive the first stage of being human. She could have been careless with your existence through abortion, miscarriage, drugs etc.  Just as a farmer persist on the growth of his seed; a mother nurtures her seed to give it life as it has been premeditated of her.

The first step and gift of attaining a greater height in life is to be alive.

No matter the despair never give up on being alive.

To who has been given the gift of life, there is a purpose. Let this statement be a striving force for you to hold on to.

GERMINATING STAGE

With every precaution taken at the right time, the seed begins to grow out of the soil and it’s no longer a seed but a plant; this stage brings happiness to the farmer. An happiness that never fails to overwhelm your parents as they watch you come into the world known as a child; to your feeding moments; your Oliver twist cries for more; your first sickness ; your first steps to more human activities and yeah! You are a year older.

As a life grows so does its destiny gets awaken. The very moment you had been planted in the womb your destiny has been bestowed.

Every soul has a destiny to fulfill and this is known as HOPE…an anticipation for the time of the unknown to be actualized.

Just as the statement goes ‘when there is life ,there is hope’ meaning ‘when there is life, there is a destiny to be fulfilled’.

No matter your trials, you have a fulfillment to actualize in life thus you must be strong and be persistence.

GOING THROUGH THE SEASON STAGE

The season of a plant begins as it goes through day, night, rainfall, dry season, drought etc. The season of a child begins the very moment he is left with a babysitter who leaves him to cry for hours and pretends to be lovable in the presence of the parents, the childhood moments in kindergarten class to the final primary level; the test of attaining manhood in Secondary School level to the days of adventure in Higher Institution till the final day your cap is lifted after servicing your country as a Corp member.

In this season however, there is still a shield you lean on to. A shield to the plant in this season is the farmer who fails not to keep the surroundings intact for the plant to pass through the seasons without withering, your shield as human could either be your parents or a family member who fails never to be there to help mentally, financially n materially etc.

These years are the beginning of the good, the bad and the ugly in your life but which you still count as escapade.

These are days that prepare you for the greater hurdles of life ahead of you.

PRODUCTION STAGE

This is the stage reality dawns…

At this stage the farmer expects the plants to produce so there could be manifestation of harvest in his vineyard, any alter to this outcome will bring irrational decision from the farmer concerning the plants either to be cut or burn.

In the human realm, this is the stage you are been expected to get to be on your feet and start to make the right decision concerning jobs, life, friends, girlfriend, health etc.

This fact brings about the attitude of your parents when you wake up one morning and you are been cut off from daily allowance and benefits so you could bring the manifestation of harvest in their lives.

It all starts to get wrong when the job fails to come and the days get longer than usual.

All the parents or any family member  do at this stage is understand since you cannot be cut off like plants however that level of their understanding does not keep away insults, anger, sneer etc.

Friends that are always there begin to move away with excuses.

This stage is presumed to be your fruit bearing stage but really this stage is about you.

These are the seasons that mould you into what you will be.

It is a point in your life you determine who really you want to be;

·         A man that let go on each point of failure and finally gives up on life

Or

·         A man that counts failure as a stepping stone to his dreams and never gives up.

In life, never fail to understand

·         You are a unique being.

·         There is a purpose for your existence which you must be alive to fulfill.

·         Your destiny is yours to behold and not meant for any other (talents, skills etc. might be the same but never executed the same way; despite the singing abilities of all musicians, each is known with his rhythm).

·         Look inward and reckon yourself with what you wish to be and pursue it.

·         Believe in yourself.

·         Never give up taking a new step each time you fail.

·          The disappointments etc.  are grasses you must certainly pass through to find your path, it is a stepping stone so keep moving.

THOU THE DAYS MIGHT BE LONG;

THOU THE HEART MIGHT GROW WEARY;

THOU THE TEARS MIGHT LINGER;

THOU IT SEEMS YOUR PRAYERS ARE NEVER ANSWERED;

HE WILL NEVER FAIL YOU;

FOR YOUR WAYS ARE NOT HIS WAYS;

THOU HE MIGHT TARRY;

HE IS ALWAYS ON TIME TO LIFT HIS OWN;

GOD IS FAITHFUL.

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