#EXPECTANT : Dealing Emotionally with Miscarriage

 

 

Suffering from a miscarriage or stillbirth can be very traumatic. Not only is it tasking on you physically,but emotionally as well. While a woman’s body can heal and recover relatively quickly from a miscarriage, emotionally, the healing process can take much longer.

Although many women do not want to deal with their feelings after a pregnancy loss, facing them can help you pull through and emerge a stronger person.

As with any loss, it is normal for couples to feel grief after a miscarriage. Unfortunately, far too often,outwardly displaying signs of grief is seen as a sign of weakness, causing some to be tempted to bottle up this emotion. Though you may want to appear emotionally strong to those around you, it is important to keep in mind that entering a grieving period after a significant loss is a perfectly normal human emotion.

How long a woman and her partner mourn for will vary from couple to couple and is not dictated by the length of a pregnancy. Whether you had an early miscarriage or stillbirth, the pain can be equally acute.

Grief is not the only emotion associated with miscarriages. Other typical emotions include depression, loneliness and isolation.

When your emotions begin to interfere with your daily activities, it can be a sign of major depression, a health issue that requires
professional attention.

Another common emotional response to a spontaneous abortion is self-blame. Many women often feel that if only they had done something differently,they wouldn’t have miscarried. These thoughts can ring in the mind for weeks, making it even harder to get over the loss.

Miscarriage can also cause a woman to feel intense anger and jealousy towards other women, even friends, who are pregnant. While these emotions can be appalling, they will eventually pass and fade.

The Male too suffers as the situation can make men nervous to talk to their partners. Not only are they upset about the loss,but also they are grieving for their partner. As a result, you may find that your partner is reluctant to broach the topic, fearful that he may upset you.

After a miscarriage, a couple’s relationship can become noticeably strained. Dealing with such a
significant loss can cause individuals to turn inwards and away from each. Yet, this is when you each need each other the most, for support and for a shoulder to cry on.

Be honest with your partner; if you are not ready to openly discuss the loss with him, say so. But don’t forget to also let him know when you do want to talk.

Discussing your feelings after a miscarriage is often difficult for couples, but it is necessary. 

If you find that there is too much stress
on your relationship right now, seeking out couples counselling can help you work through your grief as well as improve the communication between you and your partner.

Like your husband, your friends and family are one of your best sources to find the support you need during this difficult time.

Another great place to turn to after a miscarriage is a support group. Talking with other women and couples who are also dealing with the aftermath of a miscarriage can breakdown those feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Alternatively, speaking with a professional therapist one-on-one can help you come to terms with your loss.

Journal writing is an excellent method for people to air out their emotions.because a journal is private, you can be honest with yourself and your thoughts, allowing yourself to reflect on just what it is that you are feeling.

#NOTE

Furthermore, studies have found that
writing in a journal can actually speed up the recovery period during sad times.

To help yourself and those around you feel better and more at ease, make it clear which topics, if any, are off limits with you.

If you don’t feel ready to face the world right after your miscarriage, then don’t. Take
some time off of work to focus on yourself. If you can, arrange for your partner to also have
some free time so you can be together.