The moment a woman gets married, some things changed.
She tends to be far away from old friends and even the relationship with her family tends to take another turn.
Her husband seems to be everything to her from moment of union, a great friend to a wonderful brother to an understanding husband and most importantly her next of kin.
What seems to be unknown is that when a woman is married, she has no more place to return to in her family thus making her husband families are new kins. This is the African belief and act.
Most ladies tend to be lonely after the euphoria of ' I am married and oh! i am on honeymoon'. The only source of joy at that moment is the fact that she is with the love of her life.
Research carried out shows most men dont have an idea of this feeling from their partner because she so covers it up by dedicating her time to care for him.
The only sign of telling is when she gets back home and start talking about a new lady friend she just met and before you say jack, she has fixed an outing with her.
To cover up, you as the husband must make your woman proud to be with you and be appreciated for her sacrifices.
Making her feel appreciated isnt all about helping with house chores but with these little factors that really count.
FRIENDSHIP
Women expect their husbands to be that close friend, they so can open up to anytime.
They want the emotional support that comes from the bond of friendship.
Good friends help build confidence and can always be counted on when needed.
You should be able to tell when she is hiding her true emotion about issues and when she is bothered but wont talk.
TRUST
A good marriage is built on a foundation of trust.
Women want their marriages to be free from suspicion and insecurities.
They want their husbands to be reliable, dependable, honest and loyal.
They want to trust their husbands and be trusted completely by them.
Learn to tell the truth, argue and forgive rather for her to find out the truth after you have lied and things get ugly.
Telling the truth aint easy bro but its rather better option to a great dilemma of mistrust.
TO LOVE AND BE LOVED
A secure emotional bond is essential.
Women want demonstrations of affection.
They want assurances that their husbands enjoy being with them, and to hear the words, "I love you."
Women also want their husbands to be empathetic and sensitive to their needs.
Once in a while, surprise her with gifts.(personal gifts). choose from material things she loves having.
GOOD COMMUNICATION
Women want open, honest communication.
They want husbands who are good listeners, and who show interest in their wives by giving them undivided attention.
They also want to hear their husbands open up and share their deepest thoughts and feelings on every issue that could be except football.
BALANCE
Women want their husbands to balance things up.
Every woman knows her husband need to work to keep the family in shape but they don't want a workaholic.
Internally it is of wish that her husband must know how to balance his work ethic with time for his family.
The action gives a woman a sense of belonging.
MUTUAL STANDS
Women want stable marriages that are based on mutual stands.
If there is agreement on important matters such as where to live, whether to have children and how to raise them, and the importance of religion and family, there will be less opportunity for conflict within the marriage.
Your woman isnt married to you to be decorated as a wife, it is of honour to seek her understanding, opinions and feelings about important issues that will make impact on the family.
Never be a dictator, it kills every woman internally.
ADMIRATION AND RESPECT
Women want admiration and respect in their marriages. Husbands should be their wives' greatest fans, lavishing praise and showing gratitude whenever possible. Women want to know that their efforts are valued and appreciated.
OPTIMISM and PROBLEM SOLVING
Women want their husbands to inspire and comfort them.
Optimistic men who have faith that bad times are bound to improve make great husbands.
They don't wallow in self-pity or despair in difficult situations.
They're intelligent, positive thinkers who believe they can solve problems.
They're able to lift spirits with their upbeat approach to bleak times.
ROMANCE AND FUN
Women do want to have fun in their marriage.
They want men who are serious, but not too serious to know when to relax and enjoy themselves.
They want fun-loving husbands with a good sense of humor who know how to have a good time and how to keep the romance alive during the long haul.
Have private time together without the kids.
COMMITMENT
The critical difference between cohabitation and marriage is the depth of commitment.
Married women want to feel secure in the relationship.
They want to know their husbands don't regret choosing them as a life partner.
Women want to feel their husband's ongoing attachment to them.
Make her feel secure at every point of your lives together
Every marriage do have ups and downs but Love, Patience and Understanding build a solid home.
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